Have you seen this post? http://www.nbcdfw.com/news/local/Teacher-Charges-Second-Graders-for-Bathroom-Breaks-181634781.html
I woke up and saw this on facebook and I honestly feel sick for this teacher and all the comments I have read. One person wrote that they would go to her house and hold a gun to her head and make her pee her pants. People are calling for jail time, for termination of employment, a lawsuit, for her head on a platter. And no one knows the whole story. I have read the article 5 times to be sure. But it does not even say that this child ASKED to use the restroom - it just says he didn't have bucks so he sat back down.
To be very clear... I do think this policy is WRONG. Using the restroom is not a privilege, it is a right. Children should not be charged to go to the restroom, but there has to be some common sense put into the equation.
This is a FIRST YEAR teacher. She has been teaching for less than four months. She made a mistake. But can you imagine doing this to any other newbie in any career? Teachers are thrown in to a classroom their first year. They are expected to do everything that their seasoned colleagues are doing from day one. We are in our room alone with the kids all day - no one to bounce ideas off of, no one saying, "hey, let's think that through". There are NO classes in college that teach bathroom procedures. She was probably told she needed a procedure, and that students should not be going all day. No other input. We do not know how "Boyd's Bucks" are awarded. Students may be given 20 a day and he had already used his. The story does not say. It hurts me so much that people just choose to make her a villian and then start throwing all teachers under the bus with her.
This reminds me of my first year of teaching. I was teaching fifth grade in a different district on the other side of the state. I had done so well in college, I thought student teaching was a dream, I was so sure I was going to do so well in the classroom. I was so excited. I thought I was so ready. I was letting students go to the restroom whenever they needed. I was called into the principal's office. Students were purposely clogging the toilets and writing hideous things about each other on the walls. I was told I needed to have a pass. One kid at a time. Period. So I did what I was told. Then I had a boy tell me that he needed to go. I told him he needed to wait until the pass came back. I did not tell him no, I told him he needed to wait - until the other child got back. IN A COUPLE OF MINUTES. He proceeded to pull down his pants and pee on his desk and the girl in front of him. I sent him to the office.
The next day I was met with his furious mother. She told me she wanted to, "kick my stupid ass". She was completely in support of her child peeing on his desk and another student. She told me I FORCED him to do this by making him wait. I was told that even though there was no medical reason, her child should be allowed to go to the restroom the second he needed to go, no questions asked. My principal at the time sided with the parent (I am sure to avoid talk of being sued). The child was not given a consequence for peeing on his desk and another student. I was told off by a parent for doing what I was required to do. He went about every 20 minutes every day for the rest of the year. I threw up from stress every single day that year. He failed. But he was allowed to go to the bathroom whenever he wanted.
I felt like a failure and decided I had wasted 4 years of college and all that money. I hated teaching. And that was before Facebook and social media and the apparent witch hunt for teachers heads. I could have just as easily been this teacher in a different time and place. No one would have listened to my story. I would have just been wrong for making him wait.
This NEW teacher made a bad decision her first year of her career. Did you do everything perfectly your first year of your career? Did you ever make a mistake? Were you sued, threatened at gunpoint or torn to threads on social media for that mistake? Do you think you should have been fired or jailed? Do you want this for your precious children their first year of their career?
I wish I would hug this little sister of mine in education. I hope she is not reading all these comments, but I know she is. She is probably contemplating all her life choices because she made a mistake. I want to pubicly support her and let her know we have all been there. Keep your chin up. You are not a bad teacher because you made one mistake. I am so thankful I made it through that first year, you will too!
And I want to remind everyone to think. To look at all sides of a situation and to withhold judgement, because we all make mistakes. Teachers do not teach because it is easy, or because they want to bully anyone. They do not teach because they hate children, quite the opposite. We teach because we want the best for them, but we are not perfect. The hate HURTS us all.